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Why Even the Most Successful Women Struggle with Financial Decisions During Divorce
As a collaborative divorce attorney and mediator, I have worked with many women who are extraordinary decision-makers. They own successful businesses. They perform surgeries. They manage large organizations. They negotiate complex contracts. They lead teams, make payroll, solve difficult problems, and confidently make decisions involving hundreds of thousands—or even millions—of dollars. And many of them[…]
What’s Your Money Personality? Understanding the Financial Habits That Show Up During Divorce
After helping hundreds of individuals and couples navigate divorce, I have become convinced of one thing: very few conflicts are actually about money. They are about what money means. Over the years, I have sat across the table from couples arguing about retirement accounts, businesses, homes, credit cards, inheritances, and monthly budgets. On the surface,[…]
Why Children Should Never Be the Messenger Between Divorced Parents
One of the simplest ways parents can reduce conflict after separation or divorce is also one of the most overlooked: Do not use your children to communicate with the other parent. That includes verbal messages, text messages sent from a child’s phone, questions to pass along, and even notes tucked into a child’s backpack. While[…]
Children Hear More Than Words
Parents often assume that if they avoid arguing in front of their children or keep their voices down, their children are protected from conflict. Unfortunately, children hear much more than words. They notice the sigh when the other parent’s name appears on your phone. They see the eye roll during a parent-time exchange. They recognize[…]
Things You Can Do This Week to Keep Your Children Out of the Conflict
Protecting your children from conflict does not require perfection. It requires intention. Even small changes in how parents communicate can have a significant impact on a child’s sense of safety and security. This week, commit to trying a few of these practices: ✓ Communicate directly with the other parent. Resist the temptation to use your[…]
You Never Have to Pick Sides
One of the most heartbreaking things I hear from children of divorce—whether they are six or sixty—is the feeling that they have to choose between their parents. Sometimes that pressure is obvious. More often, it is subtle. A child notices one parent becoming upset when they talk about having fun at the other parent’s house.[…]
Why Children Need Permission to Love Both Parents
One of the most important things children need during a separation or divorce is something many parents never think to give them: Permission to love both parents. Most parents would immediately respond, “Of course my child can love both of us.” And in most cases, that is genuinely how they feel. Yet children often experience[…]
Growth and Change
Post-Nuptial Agreements as Relationship Tools When Life changes after “I Do”: Understanding Post-Nuptial Agreements Most people think of relationship planning as something that happens before the wedding. But marriage is not static. Careers shift, families grow, health changes, and financial landscapes evolve. A post-nuptial agreement — created after marriage — can be a way to[…]
Loving forward while honoring the Past: Prenups in Second Marriages and Blended Families
Falling in love again often comes with deeper self-knowledge, clearer priorities, and (very often) with more complexity. Second marriages and blended families carry not only hope for the future, but meaningful ties to the past: children, shared history, financial responsibilities, and emotional commitments that do not disappear when a new relationship begins. Yes, planning doesn’t[…]
Designing Our Future: A Thoughtful Tool for Relationship Planning
Talking about money, expectations, and long-term plans can feel overwhelming for couples — especially when those conversations are tied to legal agreements like prenuptial or post-nuptial planning. Many people want to approach these discussions with care but simply do not know where to begin. That is where the Designing Our Future workbook can make a[…]